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"About-Self-esteem..."DEFINITION About-Self-Esteem we have to live with ourselves 24 hours per day. So it’s far more important that we impress ourselves with our honesty, sincere efforts to obtain a goal, our dedication to truth, our self acceptance, than impress anyone else on this planet.
About-Self-Esteem is one of the most important keys to your success and happiness, and it‘s the single most important factor in determining our effectiveness as human beings. About-Self-esteem is how you regard yourself and how you feel about yourself. It is reflected in the way you treat yourself and the way others treat you. The way you live your life is a measure of your self–esteem and you will let yourself have only what you think you are worth. In the past you may have blamed others or circumstances for what you have lacked. Actually what you lack in the riches of life – material, emotional or spiritual – is directly related to your lack of self-esteem. WHAT IS IT ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM? About-Self-Esteem is: • A feeling of confidence, of being able to cope and taking responsibility for your actions. ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN. 1. “Because I am discouraged I begin to misbehave, to seek acceptance and control” 2. “People tell me I’m useless” 3. “I believe I’m useless” 4. “I find it hard to do things” 5. “I am discouraged and don’t try and do things” back to number 1. ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM IN HEALTHY CHILDREN. 1. “I really enjoy reading stories with you, Lucy” 2. “WOW… I feel really Worthwhile when I hear that” Three Major motives affecting behavior that result from beliefs and feelings about Self. 1. A child will act in ways that increase his sense of self-worth and satisfaction. The Four Conditions that are required for Self-Esteem in Children. • Connectiveness: This results when a child gains satisfaction from associations that are significant to that child, and others have affirmed the importance of those associations. ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM AND DEVELOPING A BETTER SELF-IMAGE. Don’t make the mistake of comparing yourself to other people. Each of us has areas that we are good in. Wouldn’t it be a boring world if we were all good at the same things? All of us have different skills, some maybe artistic, athlete or maybe some have good job skills. ____________________________________________ List some positive points about yourself. ____________________________________________ How would you like to picture yourself? __________________________________________ Concentrate on all your good qualities and assets and work hard on these. You are a unique person, there is only one you. YOU ARE YOU! If you think you are beaten, you are Think only negative thoughts and your actions and life will reflect that negativity. When you think positively your life reflects those actions and thoughts. ____________________________________________ GOAL SETTING 1.A short term, realistic goal for me is: ____________________________________________ 2.I wish to complete this goal by __/__/____ 3.What I have to do to achieve this goal: ____________________________________________ 4.I can get help achieving this goal from: ____________________________________________ SELF AWARENESS I am- Some of my needs are- Some of my hopes are- I would describe myself- Some things that are important in my life now are- Some things that are important to me are- Three things that I am trying to achieve are- I am good at- Some things I’d like to improve about myself are- I run away from- I feel confident when- I am proud of- My most striking quality is-
"Ways you can enhance your Self-esteem..."ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM 1.Take full responsibility for your life, stop blaming others and give up the “victim” act. See yourself as the cause or source of what happens to you.2.About-Self-Esteem Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love and acceptance in place of old thoughts of inferiority and inadequacy. Use the affirmation and visualisation process. Be in charge of your thoughts. 3.About-Sel-Esteem Be willing to create a lifestyle that generates, nourishes and maintains sound self-esteem (associate with others with high self-esteem). 4.About=Self-Esteem Participate in life at the highest level you can – do things you like to do, don’t stay in a job you don’t like. 5.About-Self-Esteem Watch what you say, avoid self put-downs, stop being critical of yourself and others – look for something likeable in everyone you know and meet. 6.About-Self-Esteem Stop trying to change others – instead, focus your attention on being the way you want others to be. (Be the change you want in others). 7.Keep your awareness (thoughts) focused in present time instead of living in the past or future. Remember there are no upsets in present time. 8.See yourself as being self-sufficient – don’t come from need in relationships: where needs end, love begins. 9.Stop feeling guilty – see mistakes as valuable lessons. See the cause and affect in your behavior (what produces desirable results and what doesn’t) in place of moral judgments of right/wrong, good/bad, better/worse. 10.Treat yourself lovingly every chance you get – be your own best lover. 11.Give yourself the simple pleasure to live abundantly – wear clothes you feel good in. 12.Positively acknowledge yourself frequently and keep a diary of all your successes, ‘wins’ and accomplishments. 13.Invest in yourself – go to seminars, workshops, start a self-enhancement account. 14.Give yourself permission do nothing. Periodically schedule time by yourself. 15.Have a good picture or portrait done of yourself and display it in your home. Get your picture in the newspaper. 16.Accept others acknowledgments and compliments – don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you. Say thankyou and let yourself enjoy them without embarrassment. 17.Avoid comparing yourself to others – see yourself as being of equal worth. Remember our value as Human beings is not derived from what we do. 18.Go first class frequently. Don’t look at the right side of the menu. 19.Whenever you have a thought that starts with “I have to…I need to…I ought to…I should do…I’d better”, change it to, “I want to” or “I choose to”. 20.Put integrity into everything you do – always tell the truth. 21.Frequently take deep breaths – discover the benefits and pleasures of breathing fully. 22.Sell something you like and get value from others. Find out where you can get it wholesale. 23.Be willing to laugh at yourself, at life and with others. Stop taking yourself so seriously. 24.Set goals, make plans and look for opportunities that can help you get the results you want in life. 25.Make a list of all the things you like about yourself and add to it every day. 26.Acknowledge others frequently; tell them what you like and appreciate about them (especially your family, partners and work associates). 27.Make a list of the 10-20 things you enjoy the most and make an agreement to do them frequently. 28.Be assertive, speak up for yourself. Ask for what you want. Express your factors in determining your effectiveness as a human being with feelings, preferences and opinions openly and without fear, and accept ‘No’ as OK. 29.Be respectful of others feelings and opinions. 30.Treat yourself as you would divinity, because you are divine. About-Self-Esteem is the way you feel about yourself and is reflected in the way you treat yourself and how others treat you. It is the value and worth that you place on yourself and what you allow yourself to have. It is About-Self-Esteem, which is the key to your success and happiness, and it is one of the most important factors in determining your effectiveness as a human being. Self-esteem is: • Having a feeling of confidence and competence to function successfully in life and trusting in oneself. • Approving and unconditionally loving yourself. • The willingness to be foolish. • Being able to express one’s creativity and trusting in one’s real self can be experienced. • The ability to see oneself as the cause and source of one’s circumstances in life so that one may take responsibility for it.
"Ways to improve your Self-esteem..."1.List all the things that you like about yourself.2.About-Self-Esteem Respect other people’s thoughts and feelings. 3.Frequently acknowledge others by telling them that you like and appreciate them especially your family, friends and workmates. 4.About-Self-Esteem List 10 things that you enjoy doing and do them frequently. 5.Be more assertive and speak up for yourself. This can be done by asking for what you want as well as by expressing your thoughts and feelings. 6.Experience the pleasure of deep breathing. 7.Stand in front of a full-length mirror naked and tell yourself “I LOVE YOU” for 5 minutes (try it for half an hour and see what happens). 8.Don’t take yourself so seriously and be able to laugh with others at life and yourself. 9.Display your picture in your home. 10.Acknowledge your successes and accomplishments and give yourself a pat on the back for your wins. 11.Start enhancing yourself by going to workshops and seminars and invest money in yourself. 12.Give yourself permission to be lazy and do the things that you want to do at times. 13.Be your own best lover by treating yourself lovingly every chance you get. 14.See the strengths in the people that you meet. 15.Stop putting yourself down and being critical of yourself. 16.Build a lifestyle that generates and nourishes your self worth. 17.Wear clothes that you feel good in. 18.Allow yourself to accept acknowledgments and compliments and don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you. 19.Stop comparing yourself with others and see yourself as being of equal worth. 20.If you have a thought that starts with “I ought to, I need to, I should…”, change it to,“I want to, I choose to…"
"My declaration of Self-esteem..."I am MeIn all the world, there is no-one else exactly like me. There are persons, who have some parts like me, but no-one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everthing that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it. I own everything about me; I own my own hopes, my fears. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. I have the tools to survive, To be close to others, To be productive and to make sense and order out of the world, I own me, and therefore I can engineer me. I am me, and I’m OK!
Replace fear with Love Fear comes from the need to be approved of by others, and of what the future may hold. Love is based on Peace of Mind, Harmony within, Joy, Laughter and Acceptance. Love is living and it is free. ABOUT-SELF-ESTEEM Go Back to Self-esteem Home Page
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