"Untreated Sexual Abuse will never allow you to be free..."

The dark secret of sexual abuse is not really really a secret at all. Even though some victims exhaust themselves trying to hold it down inside them just like a child would hold down a ball under the water, it keeps wanting to come up to the surface.

In fact watch closely, the violation of ones soul and body can, and does manifest itself in all sorts of ways, so a secret it is not. Maybe the victim is dependent in an unhealthy way on all sorts of things to 'help with the fight' to keep it (the secret) down below the surface. Why you ask would the victim want to protect such a damaging secret? Is it the victims friend for God sake?

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Alcohol and drugs, gambling or excessive spending, food and weight issues, cutting ones body, sex or lack thereof (abstinence), volatile relationships. These all ally with the victim in the never ending fight to anesthetise the pain of the shame, and keep that demon secret down. This is UNTREATED sexual abuse.

Look closely now, there is no secret, IT, is wearing a camouflage trying to deceive us all. We are not deceived though, we know something is'nt right with the unhappy victim. What can we do? NOTHING actually, it is up to the victim to allow a healing to take place and that means connecting with another, or other human beings who know their pain and have walked the road to recovery from this insideous freedom stealer.

How devestated the victim feels to have to re-live the accounts again, and verbalise the facts, my God that will mean it really did happen. The secret gave them a sense of doubt, maybe they were imagining it, maybe they really are nuts. Talking it out with professionals and/or a support group whilst doing the suggested things is called TREATED sexual abuse. Maybe the abuser has to be confronted, this is true freedom. Expresssing the violation to the abuser is the key in unlocking the shame even if it is done through another as in Gestalt Treatment.

I am only too aware of cases where the abuse would make you sick to hear about, however sexual abuse is sexual abuse and the degrees of it range from inappropriate touching to years and years of unimagineable acts. It invades the soul of the victim leaving a wound that actually gets bigger and bigger. A bandaid WONT do, the wound needs to be removed but will in all cases always leave a small scar, reminding the victim to be on watch with their own children.

That my friends is the payoff for TREATMENT, the victim is given a tool to protect their offspring and stop the line of abuse continuing through their family generation. Statistics say that 5% of children born to UNTREATED victims will be violated as well, lovely huh. So my theory is it is genetic, there is a cure though.

Victims have a choice to allow that secret to come to the surface which is its natural direction (remember trying to hold a ball under water) or fight like CRAZY to hold it down. Either way both choices are painful but the former is the road to success and serenity.

Why dredge it all up you ask, the past is the past, but hang on a minute. Is it really in the past, the secret is walking along with the victim in the here and now. The secret is just wearing a mask and still having an influence today, on the victim and on those close to the victim. Not in the past I say, well and truly in the present.

Healing Sexual Abuse takes place when we look at the AFFECT on our lives to date

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